Healing starts with feeling, not just understanding. You don’t need to know the textbook definition of your wound, you just need to feel the echo it leaves in your life.

THE 5 CORE WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD

Each of these wounds is like a scar left by an unmet need from your childhood. Identifying your core wound isn’t about blaming anyone; it’s about giving a name to the pain you’ve been carrying.

1. THE WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

“I’m terrified of being left alone.”

• You feel: A constant fear that people will leave, an intense need for validation, and a deep discomfort with being by yourself.
• Your inner child whispers: “If they really knew me, they would leave me.”
• It feels like this in your daily life:
  • Panic when someone doesn’t reply to your messages right away.
  • Feeling anxious when plans change.
  • Agreeing to things you don’t want to do just to keep people around.
• You cope by: Being a “people-pleaser,” trying to control relationships, or avoiding conflict at all costs.

2. THE WOUND OF REJECTION

“I’m not enough as I am.”

• You feel: A deep sense of not belonging, intense self-criticism, and a belief that you are fundamentally flawed.
• Your inner child whispers: “I don’t deserve love just for being me.”
• It feels like this in your daily life:
  • Taking any criticism personally.
  • Comparing yourself to everyone else and always coming up short.
  • Feeling like you don’t fit in, no matter where you are.
• You cope by: Striving for extreme perfectionism, avoiding situations where you might be judged, or self-sabotaging when things are going well.

3. THE WOUND OF HUMILIATION

“I’m too much for others.”

• You feel: A profound sense of shame about yourself, a fear of taking up space, and a tendency to put others’ needs before your own.
• Your inner child whispers: “It’s better to be small and invisible so I don’t bother anyone.”
• It feels like this in your daily life:
  • Apologizing for everything, even when it’s not your fault.
  • Feeling like a burden to others.
  • Minimizing your successes or qualities.
• You cope by: Constantly pleasing others, avoiding the spotlight, or sacrificing your own comfort.

4. THE WOUND OF BETRAYAL

“I can’t trust anyone.”

• You feel: A deep-seated suspicion of others, a need for control, and a fear of being vulnerable.
• Your inner child whispers: “If I let my guard down, I’ll get hurt.”
• It feels like this in your daily life:
  • Always waiting for the other shoe to drop in relationships.
  • Needing to know everything and everyone’s intentions.
  • Avoiding emotional intimacy.
• You cope by: Being hyper-vigilant, constantly testing people’s loyalty, or keeping a “plan B” for every relationship.

5. THE WOUND OF INJUSTICE

“I must always be strong and in control.”

• You feel: Emotionally rigid, a need for things to be “right,” and a struggle to express your feelings.
• Your inner child whispers: “I can’t show any weakness.”
• It feels like this in your daily life:
  • Getting easily frustrated by chaos or imperfection.
  • Feeling cold or disconnected from your emotions.
  • Judging yourself and others for not meeting high standards.
• You cope by: Being a workaholic, demanding perfection from yourself and others, or avoiding “weak” emotions like sadness or fear.

🫸🫷It’s time to nurture the most vulnerable part of yourself. Download the resources and embark on your healing process, creating a life filled with greater understanding and self-love.