From Big Fish to Small Pond

Thriving in a New Career After Immigration

So you took the leap! You left behind a familiar career path and immigrated to a new country seeking a better life. But now, you find yourself in an entry-level position, feeling like a big fish in a small pond. Don’t worry, this experience is more common than you think. Many immigrants with impressive skills and experience find themselves starting afresh. But here’s the good news: this is just the beginning of a new and exciting chapter!

This blog post is for all the high-potential immigrants out there who feel stuck in a low-level job. We’ll explore strategies to help you thrive in this new professional landscape.

Understanding the Reset:

Immigrating often means a professional reset. Foreign qualifications might not translate directly, and language barriers can create hurdles. But this doesn’t diminish your valuable experience! Reframe this as an opportunity to adapt and grow.

Strategies for Success:

  • Network Like Crazy: Leverage online platforms and immigrant communities to connect with professionals in your field. Networking helps you learn about the local job market and build valuable relationships.
  • Highlight Transferable Skills: Don’t just focus on past job titles. Identify the transferable skills you possess: leadership, problem-solving, communication – these are universally valuable.
  • Embrace Continuous Learning: Take advantage of training programs, online courses, or volunteering opportunities to hone your skills and gain local experience.
  • Build Your Brand: Create an online presence through LinkedIn or industry-specific platforms. Showcase your expertise by writing articles or participating in online forums.
  • Seek Mentorship: Find a mentor who can offer guidance and support as you navigate the new career landscape. Many organizations offer mentorship programs specifically for immigrants.
  • Focus on the Long Game: Remember, success takes time. Be patient with yourself, celebrate small wins, and keep your long-term career goals in sight.
  • Remember, you left your comfort zone for a reason! You possess the drive, determination, and skills to excel. By focusing on transferable skills, embracing continuous learning, and building your network, you’ll soon be swimming with the big fish again.

Bonus Tip: Don’t underestimate the power of your immigrant experience. Your unique perspective can be a valuable asset in the workplace.

Stuck in a Low-Level Job After Immigration? Here’s How to Rise Above (5 Positive & 5 Negative Approaches)

Feeling frustrated after immigrating? You left your career behind, and now you’re stuck in an entry-level position. Let’s explore both positive and negative ways to approach this situation:

Positive Approaches:

  1. Embrace the Challenge: This is an exciting opportunity to adapt and grow in a new professional environment. Highlight your transferable skills and show them what you’re truly capable of!
  2. Network Like a Pro: Leverage online platforms and immigrant communities to connect with professionals. Building relationships is crucial to navigate the local job market and find hidden opportunities.
  3. Invest in Yourself: Upskill through training programs, online courses, or volunteering. This demonstrates your commitment to growth and helps you gain relevant experience.
  4. Become a Thought Leader: Showcase your expertise! Write articles, participate in online forums related to your field. Build your online brand through platforms like LinkedIn.
  5. Find a Mentor: Seek guidance from someone familiar with the local job market. Mentorship programs can provide invaluable support as you navigate this new career landscape.

Negative Approaches (to Avoid!):

  1. Dwelling on the Past: Comparing your current position to your old one is a recipe for discouragement. Focus on the future and the exciting possibilities that lie ahead.
  2. Isolating Yourself: Don’t become invisible! Network actively, attend industry events, and build connections within your field. Staying connected opens doors.
  3. Playing the Blame Game: It’s easy to feel frustrated by the system. Instead of blaming external factors, channel your energy into proactive strategies that can help you advance.
  4. Giving Up Easily: Success takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself, celebrate small wins, and maintain your long-term career goals. Persistence is key!
  5. Underestimating Your Value: Don’t downplay your immigrant experience! Your unique perspective and resilience are valuable assets. Focus on how you can contribute to your new workplace.

Remember, you took a bold step by immigrating! You have the skills, determination, and drive to succeed. By adopting a positive approach, acquiring new skills, and building a strong network, you’ll soon be swimming with the big fish again.

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Feeling Insecure and Clingy?

Break Free from Needy Patterns in Your Relationship

Are you in a relationship where your fear of abandonment makes you cling to your partner? Do you find yourself distrustful and disrespecting them, even though you crave their love? You’re not alone. Many people struggle with insecurity and a need for constant reassurance, leading to unhealthy dynamics.

This blog post explores how BioNeuroEmotion (BNE) can help you break free from these patterns and build a stronger, healthier relationship.

Understanding the Root of Insecurity

Our early experiences shape how we connect with others. If you had an inconsistent or neglectful caregiver, you might develop an “anxious attachment style.” This can lead to a constant fear of being abandoned, causing you to become clingy and distrustful in your adult relationships.

The Cycle of Neediness and Disrespect

When you feel insecure, you might:

  • Become overly dependent: You crave constant attention and reassurance, smothering your partner.
  • Misinterpret actions: You see harmless actions as signs of rejection, leading to distrust.
  • Engage in controlling behaviors: You try to manipulate your partner to stay close.

This behavior can have the opposite effect, pushing your partner away and fulfilling your fear of abandonment. It can also create disrespect, damaging the foundation of your relationship.

BioNeuroEmotion: Healing from Within

BNE is a therapeutic approach that combines neuroscience, emotions, and biology. It helps you identify the subconscious emotional patterns driving your behavior. By understanding these patterns, you can learn to:

  • Identify triggers: Recognize situations that fuel your insecurities.
  • Release trapped emotions: Let go of negative emotions from the past that contribute to your neediness.
  • Develop healthier coping mechanisms: Learn to soothe yourself and build self-reliance.
  • Communicate effectively: Express your needs without manipulation or blame.

Building a Secure Bond

Through BNE, you can move towards a secure attachment style, characterized by:

  • Trust and respect for your partner: You feel confident in your relationship without needing constant validation.
  • Healthy independence: You enjoy your own life while cherishing quality time together.
  • Effective communication: You can openly express your feelings and needs without judgment.

Remember, you are not alone. BNE can empower you to build a loving, secure relationship based on mutual respect and trust.

Next Steps:

  • Consider to take a consultation with us, we are a BNE practitioner to explore this approach further.
  • Look for additional resources on attachment styles and communication in relationships.
  • Remember, change takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress.

By investing in your own emotional well-being, you can break free from unhealthy patterns and build the fulfilling relationship you deserve.

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Navigating Parenthood Together: Embracing the Bi-Directional Dance

Hey there, fellow parents!

Have you ever felt like parenting is a constant give-and-take dance with your kids? Well, you’re not alone

In this post, we’re diving into the concept of “bi-directional” parenting and what it means for us as we navigate the wonderful (and sometimes wacky) world of raising kids.

Understanding Bi-Directional Parenting: So, what exactly is bi-directional parenting? Think of it as a dynamic exchange where our parenting influences our kids, but their actions and reactions also shape how we parent. It’s like a beautiful, messy dance where we’re all learning from each other as we go.

The Impact on Parenting Practices: Picture this: you lay down the law about screen time, but your kid’s relentless negotiations (and maybe a few puppy-dog eyes) lead you to rethink your stance. That’s the bi-directional nature of parenting in action! It’s all about finding that balance between setting boundaries and being open to adjusting our approach based on our kids’ needs.

Fostering Open Communication: Communication is key, right? When we create a safe space for our kids to share their thoughts and feelings, it opens up a world of understanding. So, let’s keep those lines of communication wide open and encourage our kids to speak their minds.

Adaptability and Flexibility: Let’s face it, no two kids are alike. What works for one might totally flop with another. That’s where our adaptability comes in. Being willing to switch gears and try new approaches keeps us on our toes and fosters that beautiful dance of parenting.

Learning from Each Other: Believe it or not, our kids are some of our greatest teachers. Whether it’s a lesson in patience from a toddler’s epic tantrum or a fresh perspective on life from a curious teen, there’s always something to learn from our little (or not-so-little) ones.

Challenges and Opportunities: Sure, there are challenges along the way—like navigating those inevitable power struggles or deciphering the mysteries of the teenage mind. But each challenge is also an opportunity for growth, both for us and our kids. Together, we can tackle anything that comes our way.

Conclusion: As we wrap up, let’s take a moment to appreciate the beautiful dance of bi-directional parenting. It’s messy, it’s unpredictable, but above all, it’s a journey we’re lucky to share with our amazing kids. So here’s to embracing the twists and turns, the dips and spins, and everything in between.

Closing Thoughts: I’d love to hear from you! What are some of the most valuable lessons you’ve learned from your kids? Share your thoughts in the comments below and let’s keep the conversation going.


Learn to unlearn

Learning to unlearn is to stop doing the same thing in the same way. It means finding or discovering that other paths can lead us to the same destination, leaving behind the limitations we commonly have, and embracing those we haven’t experienced.

Do you find it difficult to let go of old beliefs? Are there parts of yourself that you would like to change but they resist?

Throughout our lives, we have learned many things, both at home and at school. We have accumulated information without filtering it, without taking the time to distinguish what serves us from what doesn’t, what brings us happiness from what simply helps us survive.

And then comes a moment when we find ourselves at a crossroads in our own lives, where we start to question certain learnings, habits, and many apathies.

Furthermore, why is it that what we know no longer serves us? If we have functioned in a certain way until now, why do we doubt our way of doing things? When we question ourselves at a personal level, we are doubting our entire system and even our relationships.

Letting go of our identification with what we have learned, questioning its effectiveness, and asking ourselves what part of ourselves is reflected in our behavior is the first step to integrating new information.

It is essential to understand that, even more important than learning something new, is realizing that our way of seeing the world is optional and learned.

The inheritance we have received is neither good nor bad; it is what our system has deemed appropriate for ensuring our survival. It has been transmitted to us in the form of beliefs and values, and we are expected to continue living in a specific way.

It is about understanding the positive intention behind what we were taught and thereby connecting with ourselves. We stop blaming and judging, preparing ourselves for transformation.

Bioneuroemotion suggests learning to unlearn through self-inquiry, thanks to all the information we can observe in our projections, our relationships, and our circumstances.

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Mindfulness and Bioneuroemotion

More and more people are realizing that in order to enhance their emotional well-being, they need to develop themselves internally and learn to expand their awareness of what is happening to them. At the same time, increasing research supports the idea that individuals who engage in these types of practices are able to reduce their stress levels, improve their personal relationships, and enhance their quality of life.

Mindfulness is a meditation-like tool currently used by many individuals and organizations to help people live in the present moment and try to alleviate stress. A key motto of Mindfulness is “awakening to the reality of the present moment.”

It focuses on being fully present and learning to relate directly to what is happening here and now, in the present moment, distinguishing between useful and useless thoughts. It addresses stress derived from conflict but does not address the nature of the original conflict. It offers a behavioral solution, suggesting a shift of attention from the external to the internal. We modify the stimuli without paying attention to the information they represent.

In this context, the Bioneuroemotion method also fits,

a methodology that provides resources to effectively reduce stress in the medium and long term by acquiring a new way of observing what happens to us, not only in the present moment but also considering memories from the past and expectations for the future. It helps individuals improve their emotional health and develop their potential by awakening to the reality of their own history and life. It is a further step in the development of a conscious mind with the aim of empowering individuals in creating their life and well-being.

In order to make changes and improve our lives, in addition to observing the present moment, it is essential to understand it, integrate it, and transcend it from a broader perspective.

Bioneuroemotion is a practice applicable to all aspects of our lives, allowing us to transform any situation into a tool for deep self-understanding and growth through each experience.

In addition to learning to practice Mindfulness, we invite you to explore what Bioneuroemotion is, to take another step in the development of a conscious mind.

“Emotion is the chief source of all becoming conscious. There can be no transformation of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.”

  • Carl Gustav Jung
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Work Disability due to depression

Before discussing work disability due to depression, it is necessary to explain what we call work disability. Work disability is defined and evaluated by the National Institute of Social Security. Depression can make it impossible for an employee to perform work, thus it can be a cause of disability as long as the situation is recognized by a professional who has the ability to determine such a situation.

As an employee, you are protected in a series of situations that could result in your inability to work and the need for medical and healthcare attention from your social security system. Basically, there are two reasons or groups of causes for disability: illness or accident.

Depression, on the other hand, can be defined as an illness or mental disorder characterized by profound sadness, hopelessness, low self-esteem, loss of interest in anything, and impaired mental functioning.

The most characteristic symptoms of depression include repeated crying accompanied by persistent fear or emptiness, loss of interest in activities that previously brought pleasure, loss of libido, extreme fatigue, weakness in strength and muscles, loss or increase of appetite, difficulty concentrating, feelings of worthlessness, and insomnia or inability to sleep and stay asleep.

Treatment of Depression

Cognitive models view humans as a system that processes information from the environment before responding. The individual classifies, evaluates, and assigns meaning to the stimulus based on their experience of interaction with the environment and their beliefs, assumptions, attitudes, worldviews, and self-evaluations. Emotional disorders tend to express a bias in information processing that generates irrational thoughts, which are the cause of depression. In cognitive-behavioral therapy, it is important to set goals to assess each situation realistically, learn to take into account all the data of each situation, as well as challenge irrational thoughts by engaging in different behaviors. Among the behavioral techniques, we can highlight activity scheduling and step-by-step task assignment, as well as assertiveness training. In cognitive techniques, we focus on training in observation and recording of cognitions, demonstrating to the patient the relationship between cognition, affect, and behavior, etc.

Psychological Evaluation: How to Obtain Work Disability Due to Depression

The work disability claim form is extremely important as this type of evaluation examines how the illness affects your daily life and hinders your ability to perform your work normally and effectively.

The task of the expert is, therefore, to establish causality and technically explain that the illness experienced by the individual renders them incapable of properly engaging in any work activity, as the symptoms directly impede their performance and competence as a professional.

Types of Work Disability Due to Depression

Clearly, when assessing possible work disability, the nature of the disorder must be considered. Generally, a person suffering from depression tends to have temporary disability. In these cases, the person’s symptoms have appeared over a short period of time, and treatment is initiated to alleviate these symptoms.

If the symptoms persist for a long period of time, the situation of temporary disability should be reviewed, and permanent disability should be evaluated. This assessment should be conducted to determine the extent of the pathology, its severity, the duration of symptoms, how it affects the person’s life, and the emotional harm caused by this disorder.

In this regard, permanent disability can be total (preventing the employee from performing tasks related to their professional activity) or absolute (preventing the employee from engaging in any type of professional activity), depending on the impairment it represents and the person’s inability to cope with normalcy on a chronic basis in daily life.

Lastly, we can discuss Great Disability. This type of disability, in addition to the aforementioned problems, implies that the person suffering from the disorder requires the assistance of a third party to carry out their daily activities.

All disabilities of this kind should be reviewed after a certain period of time, as the development of the disorder and its impact on the person’s life and emotional state need to be evaluated, and improvements or deterioration can be assessed.

We must not forget that the psychological report is an effective proof that technically reflects the possible disability. The psychological report is a snapshot of the person’s emotions and cognitive and psychological state and is as relevant as a medical report relating to a broken bone, for example, an injury or a fracture.