
Purpose: To improve communication to prevent future overflows.
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Emotional Reflection: Repeat or paraphrase what the child said or demonstrated. “It sounds like you’re very angry that your brother took your toy.” This makes the child feel seen and heard.
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The Emotion Sticks: Use colored/faced sticks as non-verbal language. Instead of asking “Are you angry?”, ask “Can you show me with the sticks how you feel right now?” This is more accessible for ages 2-4.
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The No-Immediate Solution: Sometimes, the child just needs to be heard, not to have the problem solved. The parent must resist the temptation to offer an immediate solution and simply reflect the feeling.
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